Kink peels back my defenses

I’m learning to be me. Sometimes it’s really hard: to say yes when no tumbles out automatically; to give an honest answer when someone asks me how I am; to ask for what I want when it goes so completely against my grain to do so.

Kink seems to provide a surprisingly helpful place for me to practice these things, with its demand for honesty and open communication.

monochrome photo of couple holding hands

With some beautiful kinky play having peeled back my defenses, I felt open to share with somebody how I actually, really am. I was scared that they would run away if I bared myself like that. But they didn’t. In fact, they stayed and held my hand and stroked my hair for as long as I needed them to.

I’m feeling so much lighter and happier for having shared this connection with another human being…Ā  I was even walking differently on the way home. And now I’m smiling writing this šŸ™‚

Ruby x

(from notes written Jan 2017)

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