My standards have gone up. That means more dates, less sex.
Despite that leaving me in a somewhat sexually frustrated place, I think it’s wholly a good thing: quality, not quantity. Instead of arranging a “play-date” with someone with matching kinks, I’m seeking an emotional connection to go alongside that.
- It means I want to feel heard by my partner: that there is space for their emotions and mine.
- I want to feel understood.. that we inhabit the same emotional plane on this earth, so that we can meet one another fully.
- It also means I want my partner to think that my body is hot as fuck. And I won’t settle for less.
After a long term relationship with no compliments, no orgasms and not being met emotionally, I am finally beginning to expect more. I won’t be playing with anyone that doesn’t meet those needs in me, and vice versa.
We all deserve that. I seem to have realised that includes me.