Four dates in three days

Phew. It’s been a busy weekend! Four dates in three days: and three of those were firsts.

It feels like dating has become a hobby. I suppose that is the stage that I’m at currently. If perhaps one in four dates leads to something more, then one does need to spend time dating. It’s an investment, right?!



First there was George: a little older than me and an experienced dominant with a gaze that’s hard to break. He’s a gentle and interesting character with a knack for being uncannily perceptive: he saw straight into the dark depths of my fantasies. He’s also a fan of using the word cunt in a positive way… in fact he insists on it, much to my delight. It feels like a bit of an adventure into uncharted waters for me. I’m feeling excited to have found someone to explore my darker desires with. (*More about this in another post.)

Then there was Charlie… lovely Charlie šŸ™‚ Another takeaway, a great film, good chat, cuddles, kisses, and a blow job. Who said friends can’t get each other off sometimes? We were chatting and drinking wine and I just had this strong urge to unzip his fly. I’m a bit wary of crossing boundaries, especially as we figure out what exactly this connection is. Lines of communication are well and truly open: I think this is relationship anarchy in practice.

Then my delightfully kinky hipster plumber who drove across the country to see me, got caught in a hell-of-a traffic jam and was 6 hours late! A very lovely man with a delicious kinky appetite, but sadly we didn’t meet one another emotionally.Ā  I’m sad about this one, cos we’ve been messaging for months. It seems that you really just cannot tell until you meet.

And finally there was Robert (remember- the arrogant prick?). I started writing about him, before realising it is pretty much a whole blog post on it’s own. See “a date with Robert”.

What have I learned this weekend?

  • My standards have risen (see “rising standards”)
  • 4 dates in 3 days is too many!
  • You really never know how it will go until you meet face to face

Ruby x

4 thoughts on “Four dates in three days

Add yours

  1. Well done – I have definitely done that before! it’s exhausting – emotionally and physically. Sounds like you are well aware of yourself and your boundaries – so lovely šŸ™‚ good luck on all your dating adventures!


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

Blog at

Up ↑

kinky sprinkles

Polyamory, Sex Education, BDSM and a Sprinkle of Fun

Rubber Bands and Chewing Gum

holding it together as I journey through therapy - a personal account of what it's like to be in long-term psychotherapy navigating the healing of C-PTSD, childhood trauma and neglect, an eating disorder, self-harming behaviours, as well as giving grief and cancer an occasional nod.

Coffee & Kink

Fuelled by coffee and inappropriate thoughts

The Smutlancer

Writing about sex and getting paid to do it

Accidental Masturbator

Not just another sex blog


art. popular since 10,000 BC

Mocha Cravings

Sultry Poems and Stories of Black Love, Lust, and Longing

Miss Scarlet Writes

Thoughts on Life, Lust and Longings


Married submissive: The love, the kink and the connection.

Karen Lowry

Work with ease, find the flow.

Kilted Wookie - The Zen Nudist

Just a man, contemplating the meaning of life, the universe and everything ā€“ frequently in the nude.

The Art of Blogging

For bloggers who aspire to inspire


This site is about my journey into male chastity. I hope to be brutally honest and perhaps helpful to others wanting to try the same thing.

Sex Matters ~ by May More

Don't Lose it or Confuse it


Friends. Photography. Adventure.

Thrill of the Chaste

Personal experiences in the world of Male Chastity


Blogging & Podcasting about Kink, Fetish & BDSM

Femdom Ramblings from a submissive male

18+ NSFW. A place for Femdom ideas, D/s theory, and random thoughts

sacred light yoga & wellness

nothing in your way


Sharing self help tips/advice/blogs on how to make your life beautifully positive!

Sexual (Mis)adventures of a Single Mum

A journey towards self-acceptance and sexual empowerment


A daily selection of the best content published on WordPress, collected for you by humans who love to read.

The Atavist Magazine

A journey towards self-acceptance and sexual empowerment

The Blog

The latest news on and the WordPress community.

%d bloggers like this: