Ouch / Mmm

There’s something about the psychology of BDSM that is about opposites. I find it fascinating, though I haven’t got my head around it yet. I’d love to learn more about it someday.

There are things you really don’t want your Dominant to know because you know they’ll use it to their own evil ends! At the same time you’re dying to tell them because part of you desperately wants to be tortured mercilessly! Do you know the sort of feeling?! For me there’s a giddy, childish sense of poking a sleeping bear again and again until it suddenly jumps out and you scream with the shock and excitement. You don’t want it, but you really do!


Here are some things I have that love/hate relationship with:

  • being made to say something that I find extremely embarrassing
  • being teased verbally and physically
  • being denied orgasms
  • being tickled
  • some types of pain

Pain is quite a specific category of its own, entitled ‘Fuck me, that really hurts / Ohh, I’m gonna cum’! Not all pain works like that for me. My list would include clit spanking, bottom spanking, breast spanking (see the theme?!) and certain types of nipple pain.

It’s peculiar isn’t it? I’m basically asking someone to do things to me that I cannot bear, because at the same time it makes me squeal with pleasure and excitement. Fun!!!

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